Ever feel like you have been brainwashed by society’s standards of how you should look, behave and feel? Such a mindset is deeply ingrained in our subconscious and can harm your self-worth and self-confidence.
Traditionally, a women have been pigeonholed into being a mother and a caretaker for her family. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a homemaker, times have changed and we have so many more options. So that means that society’s expectation of us has changed, right?
Well, not exactly. Modern times have only camouflaged this and we can still find traces of what’s expected of women (especially in comparison to men) mentality all around us. Whether its in advertising or the IT sector, you will encounter an outdated mindset.
Feeling like you’re not meeting what society expects of you is the main culprit for affecting my confidence. And it’s all around us: in magazines, across social media, on the television and even on giant billboards when we’re simply driving to work!
Women see only one type of body portrayed as desirable in mainstream media, and that can lead to feelings of insecurity! However, there is no reason to feel that way because you are beautiful just as you are!
Here are 18 things that you can do to help boost your confidence:
1. Rewire Your Mind
Train your brain into thinking positively. Morning mantras and telling yourself you’re amazing in the mirror work wonders. You can actually find 50 brilliant affirmations here. As yourself empowering questions like ‘Why am I so successful?’, ‘Why are people so drawn to me?’. Then answer them. You might feel silly at first, but you’ll soon start believing what you say.
2. Let go of Negativity
If you know someone who is constantly putting you down and making mean comments about you, do yourself a favour and distance yourself from them for good. These people project their insecurities on others and you should have no time to entertain them.
3. Go Easy on Yourself
We have an image of ourselves in our heads that we live up to in our real lives. The thing is that image is close to perfect and we, as human beings, are not. So embrace your imperfections and turn them into a positive trait. Don’t be too harsh on yourself!
4. Get Dressed
Having a bad confidence day? Get up, take a shower and wear your favourite outfit. If you treat yourself well, especially on these days, you’ll be amazed how much you’ll give yourself a confidence boost. When you see yourself in the mirror, you will feel energized, happy, and ready to take on the world.
5. Be Kind To Yourself
There are plenty of people out there who are unnecessarily mean, and the last thing you need is to be your own hater. Be kind and gentle towards yourself. It’s okay to have that dessert, skip a day of exercise or wake up an hour late.
6. Know Yourself
In our busy lives we never get to know ourselves properly and we, as a society, need to change that. We are so caught up living up to the image that the external world sells us that we lose ourselves and our self-worth. The idea is to become the perfect version of somebody else’s vision. For example; you might be a mother and the image of the perfect motherly figure forced upon you by social media could be of, say, Kim Kardashian.
This is not okay! After having a baby, your body changes, and due to that your confidence takes a hit. Having to live up to these standards is next to impossible. Learn about yourself, your likes and dislikes, your preferences, etc, and forget about what the internet is preaching.
Take yourself to the salon and treat yourself to self-care activities that you have been putting off. Getting pampered by someone else is a great way to boost your confidence. Or even better, just take a nice and hot shower to get ready for the day ahead. If I’ve taken a confidence hit, a change of hair colour can make all the difference!
8. Live by Your Own Rules
In life, we often follow what parents, teachers, friends, our spouse, and famous people say. You need to ditch these expectations and start living your life by your own rules and what’s important to you. This is also important because things that are valuable to others might not be valuable to you and vice versa. Start by writing a list of your values and how you want to live them.
9. Posture Matters
Remember as a child when your mother used to tell you to fix your posture while watching TV? Well, if you didn’t take that advice back then, take it now! It might not seem like a big deal, but having that straight posture makes you look more confident, and it’s only a matter of time before that trickles down to you too!
10. Walk Confidently
The famous saying goes “fake it till you make it”, so put on a confident strut even if you are feeling a bit low. Walking confidently is a good way to feel like you have got your life together. Once you have achieved that, everything else will be a cakewalk.
11. Eat Clean
While it’s great to treat yourself every now and then, eating poorly can negatively affect thinking patterns. This isn’t about losing weight or looking thinner, it’s about how food affects how you think. So bin the salt and the sugar, cut down on caffeine and drink more water you dehydrated biatch! You’ll be amazed by how much better you feel day-to-day.
12. Work Out
Working out releases endorphins that are ‘feel-good’ hormones needed to keep you happy. Working out will make you feel good as you are investing in your health and appearance. These days you can choose anything from yoga to pilates. Choose whatever is fun for you and get started.
13. Achieve Goals
A sense of accomplishment boosts our confidence and makes us feel good about ourselves. Now, you don’t need to achieve all your goals to have this feeling. You can set a small goal like reading a book or going for a jog in the morning. After finishing that you will feel accomplished and productive.
14. Change a Habit
Changing a habit is not easy but losing a bad habit will skyrocket your confidence. If you are a smoker and feel unhealthy, try quitting to feel the opposite. We all have some flaws that affect our self-worth, it’s good to identify them and work on eradicating them.
15. Smile More Often
I’m not one of those men telling you to smile more, honest!! Smiling sends a signal to our brain that we are happy. When we feel happy, we feel confident and good about ourselves. Try to smile throughout the day while carrying out simple activities. Do more of what you like.
16. Try Something New
Try something completely new! Something that intrigues you but you never had the confidence to do before. Do not let failure hold you back from trying. Your confidence will get a boost when you feel that you have taken on a challenge head-on instead of not trying at all.
You know what? At times we need to take a step back and seek professional help. We all have some unresolved issues holding us back from enjoying our lives. Being a woman, god knows you have been through so much, and it’s good to share it with someone who wouldn’t judge you in any way.
18. Love Yourself
This is a lifelong goal that you need to strive for. Love yourself in all ways, whatever shape or size you are. At times, it is we who hold ourselves back and not others. Once you accept yourself for who you are, that’s when you become confident. So keep shining bright and love yourself.
We hope that women reading this know that they are confident, beautiful, and kind human beings. You just need to make a few simple changes to bring out that side of you.